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I seem to have this conversation on a regular basis with my friends, business acquaintances, daughters, and granddaughters. Let go of the guilt if you are a working mother and embrace how clever you are at juggling. In an ideal world, it would be lovely to be able to stay home with your children as they are growing up. So, an ideal world for most of us is bullshit. It’s not going to happen and in order to provide our children with all the things they need and live under a decent roof, we have to work. Being a working mother is the norm these days, isn’t it?
As a grandmother who has walked the path of being a working mother myself, I understand the emotions that come with juggling career aspirations and family responsibilities. Among these emotions, guilt often takes centre stage. However, I'm here to tell you that it's time to let go of that guilt and embrace the positives that come with being a working mother.
1. Financial Independence: One of the most significant advantages of being a working mother is the financial stability it brings to your family. By contributing to the household income, you're not only providing for your children's immediate needs but also securing their future. Whether it's saving for their education or building a nest egg for unexpected expenses, your work plays a crucial role in ensuring their financial well-being.
2. Setting a Positive Example: As a working mother, you're setting a powerful example for your children, especially your daughters. You're showing them that it's possible to pursue their passions and ambitions while also fulfilling their responsibilities as a parent. Educate them on why you are working and how that makes a difference to them. By witnessing your dedication to both your career and your family, you're instilling in them the values of hard work, determination, and balance.
3. Personal Fulfilment: Let's not forget the importance of self-fulfilment. Your career is not just a means to an end; it's a source of personal satisfaction and growth. As a working mother, you have the opportunity to pursue your passions, develop your skills, and contribute to the world beyond your family. This sense of fulfillment not only enriches your own life but also positively impacts your interactions with your loved ones.
4. A Strong Support System: Being a working mother doesn't mean you're alone in this journey. You have a network of colleagues, friends, and family members who understand and appreciate the challenges you face. Through shared experiences and mutual support, you can navigate the ups and downs of balancing work and family life more effectively. Don’t feel guilty asking for help, we have all been through it, and if it doesn’t suit we can only say no.
5. Celebrate Quality Time: Being a working mother doesn't necessarily mean sacrificing quality time with your children. While you may have less time available, the time you do spend together becomes more precious and meaningful. By prioritizing activities, carefully planning your weekly diary, and creating special moments, you can strengthen your bond with your children and create lasting memories. Celebrate what you achieve and share it with all your extended family.
6. Get your employer on board from the start and negotiate your terms. Take the time to discuss your family’s needs, how that fits into your work life, and how it isn’t going to affect the quality of work you produce. Don’t give your boss any surprises and always look for a win-win for both of you. Negotiable working from home some of the time if that is possible. Even one day a week makes a big difference.
I urge you to let go of the guilt and embrace the positives that come with your role. You are not just working for yourself; you're working to provide a better future for your family, setting a positive example for your children, and finding fulfillment in the pursuit of your passions. Embrace your power, celebrate your achievements, and remember that you are making a difference, both at work and at home.
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